before or after marriage - Risk Factors for Premarital Sex

Teenagers who feel incomplete, inadequate and unappreciated are more likely to seek comfort in a sexual relationship. But those with a life rich in relationships, family traditions, activities, interests and — most of all — consistent love and affirmation are less likely to embark on a desperate search for fulfillment that could lead to unwise sexual decisions. Those who have a healthy, productive faith in God are more likely to have deeply rooted reasons to respect and preserve the gift of sex and to respect rather than exploit others.

Be aware of these specific risk factors for teen sex:
Alcohol and drug use. Aside from reflecting problem attitudes (rebellion, poor self-concept, invulnerability) that make sex more likely, intoxication also clouds judgment and weakens resistance to sexual overtures.
A steady boyfriend or girlfriend. Strong attachments and feelings of exclusivity invite nature to take its course, especially when physical expressions of affection begin early in the relationship. This is a particular risk in a situation where the boy is more than two or three years older than the girl is. If a teen romance appears to be getting hot and heavy and a lot of physical contact is already displayed, you will need to speak with both boy and girl diplomatically but candidly about the physical process they are setting in motion.
Little parental monitoring. Leaving adolescents alone for hours at a time or not requiring accountability is a setup for sex.
A parental belief that adolescent sex is appropriate. If you think premarital sex is okay, your adolescent will too and will act on that belief.
A parental belief that adolescent sex is inevitable. Many parents who disapprove of teen sex have also concluded that it is as certain as death and taxes. Their approach to the subject will thus be double-edged: "Don't do it, but in case you do, use this condom." Adolescents will get the message loud and clear and are likely to act accordingly.
Low grade-point average/low attachment to school. While school performance is affected by a variety of factors, a basic desire to do well in school reflects a more hopeful outlook on the future and a willingness to put off immediate gratification for long-term goals. Teen sex, on the contrary, usually reflects ignorance of or little regard for consequences.

This doesn't mean, of course, that every scholar is a bulwark of morality or that all who are not academically oriented are destined to be promiscuous. What ultimately matters is a person's commitment to basic values such as responsibility, respect for self and others and concern about the effect of today's decisions on the future.
A history of physical or sexual abuse . These acts against children and adolescents violate their bodies, minds and hearts. Sexual abuse creates a grossly distorted view of sexual behavior, destroys boundaries, and drives a deep sense of worthlessness into the emotions. Whether the abuse occurred in the distant or recent past, adolescents with this history need ongoing support, counseling and prayer to help them develop healthy attitudes about sex and about themselves.
Frequent family relocations. Moving generally stresses both parents and adolescents (especially if the kids resent the decision). This can erode parental authority and distract parents from involvement with their children. Bonds to social supports such as church groups that help prevent sexual activity are severed by multiple moves. Loneliness and loss of friendships may lead some teenagers to use sexual activity to gain social acceptance. These issues should be considered by parents who are thinking about a possible relocation.
Only one parent in the household. Parenting was meant to be a team effort, and some risks will naturally increase when one parent is left to do all the protecting and monitoring alone. Some studies do indicate that adolescents living with a single parent are more likely to become sexually active than those living with both parents. Work and household demands can prevent single parents from being as involved and attentive as they need and want to be. And the divorce and desertion that sometimes lead to a one-parent home can make teens uncertain about the value of marriage as the setting for sexual activity and about the role of sexuality in parental relationships.

This increased risk does not mean that adolescent sex is inevitable in single-parent families. But it does place an additional responsibility on single parents to send their teenagers clear and consistent messages about sexuality. And it is one more reason for single parents to enlist as much support as they can.

Sexual Appetite

Two people are like two gods. Two of them? Two of you. Melt in the infinite bliss of the eternal love as only thus the impossible changes into a miracle and all that you are easily becomes happiness.

With sparkling soul you easily elevate each other until you reach God. Now it is possible that you melt within His heart.

ENDLESSLY EXTEND YOUR LEASURE
Usually, a man needs to ejaculate unless he has an adequate training, an esoterical knowledge about the sexual intercourse, and a specific initiation

In fact, it is the impulse of the inferior instincts of the human being. A antricublimatesthese carnal instincts and consequently he removes this wish to ejaculate by the means of a spiritual action, consciously led to sublimation.

This spiritual action means to use certain methods (ogatechniques, meditation, rituals, etc) that make the man to resonate with the sublime energies of the Universe.

Through sexual ontinence which is an alchemic process that includes to hold your semen, consciously done by the initiated ones, the primary wish to ejaculate disappears and it is replaced by the aspiration or wish to continue the union generated by the transfigurating sexual intercourse.

In this case the substance is transformed in energy, the raw into subtle, the inferior wishes in sublime aspirations.

Ejaculationis directly related to procreation; thus, tantrics use it only when they want to have a baby. Through sexual continence an opposite, very subtle phenomenon takes place: the energies are directed inside the body and not out like in the case of ejaculation.

This effervescent accumulation of energies during intercourse inside our own being generates the sublime ecstatic states mentioned by the tantric treaties and which could be the study domain of the trans personal sexology.

YOU ARE MORE ALIVE THAN EVER
It is said that the perception of the present moment can set your wish free. In a common state of consciousness we perceive the world in a certain way, sometimes without even realizing that we perceive it.

Thus, we could say that we do not "perceive" but dream the perception as the common state that we have can be similar to a unconsciousness state during the state of dream.

But in the state of pure consciousness, perception becomes a way of living. Being aware of the outside world facilitates our access to the pure existence and to its essence, the pure bliss.

In tantrism, the sexual intercourse is approached with awareness, ransfigurationand continence, the direct perception is the source of pleasure and voluptuousness.

To fully live the perceptions, to be aware of them and to perfectly control them is the fundamental tantric key that opens the gate to the alchemic art of the sensual, spiritual love.

We only have to learn how to consciously and fully enjoy the exotic pleasures and to be aware of their divine nature.

To become one with ourselves throughout the merging with the beloved during intercourse, to consciously live the bliss of love, to reach and enjoy ecstasy, this is in fact the trans personal sexology.

Apabila suara sumbang akan bersuara 11/12

Ahahaha okay ni plan yang tak berapa pasti jadi ke tak pasal ingatkan nak gerak gi Karaoke but cam ilyas has better plan pergi vacation kat langkawi( but next year) so cam best gila babi.ahahahha so tak tahu mana satu nak gi. ahahahha kena pandai savinglah sekarang pasal duit ni memang susah nak cari but senang pergi. ahahahah lagi lagi kalau ada mangkuk hutang tue ada 10000 orang confirm duit pergi macam tue jer tanpa sempat kau nak bau.ahahahhahahah wtv it is KERJA apa-apa pun susah mana senang tak macam orang tue nak duit but kerja takmo inilah jadinya ahahahaha. bang kena tembak lagi. dah berapa kali dah kena tembak.wohooooooooooooooooooooo

Akhirnya JATUH juga si mangkuk satu

Maaflah, kali ni citer pasal salah seorang 3 mangkuk. mangkuk ni yang bernama hutang yang akhirnya sudah takde harapan lagi dan baru baru ni ada seorang kawan cerita yang dia sudah pun clash ngan awek dia and dia sekarang dah takde tempat bergantung and ntah apa dia buat tak tahulah. and ada beberapa orang inform yang dia ada hantar msg yang dia boleh dapatkan apa ntah internet service ke apa ntah. hello kawan, berapa akli nak cakap yang semua benci kau( tak tahulah siapa lagi yang kau tipu kalau member aku, Naif kau tipu burukkan aku kat dia sumpah demi Allah, hanya Allah sahaja tahu apa nak buat ngan kau.), takde siapa percaya kat kau, even kawan baik kau sendiri tak mengaku kau ni kawan baik kau. aku rasa mesti si minah tue dah sedar apa yang berlaku sekarang. serious nama kau definitely busuk di semua tempat=). ingatlah aku cakap ni bukan pasal kau kawan aku ker apa, terus terang aku tak mengaku kau kawan aku, kau nak cakap aku ngan kau adik-beradik ker apa-apa, siapa kau? kau bukan abang aku, bahkan aku bukan budak kau ke apa-apa, kau takyah bajet sangatlah kawan. kalau kau betul apa kau cakap, dah lama kau buatlah kawan, and kau takkan jatuh melainkan kau ada seorang yang bodoh and tak percaya kat Yang Maha Berkuasa. Aku cakap lagi sekali, jangan kau cabar kesabaran aku, kau burukkan nama aku, aku hancurkan kau sekejap sahaja. terima kasih=)

How to Lose Weight Fast Without Starving Yourself Or Exercising Like Crazy

osing weight can be quite a challenge, especially if you want to lose weight fast. Finding the perfect diet and exercise plan that is right for you is what will guarantee your weight loss success. All without starving yourself or exercising like crazy.

That is why the preparation steps you take before starting to lose weight are so important. By evaluating your condition and choosing the right diet for you, you will be able to lose weight fast and easy.

Your metabolism plays a key role in how fast you can lose weight. A fast metabolism makes quick weight loss a piece of cake. That is why the first step towards losing weight fast is to find out just how fast your metabolism is. You can use the Metab-O-Meter to the right to do just that. The Metab-O-Meter will tell you exactly how fast your metabolism really is.

The second step is all about choosing a diet that suits you. There are plenty of diets available but only a few of them are healthy weight loss diets, and even fewer are good for your personality and body type. There is a certain art to finding the right diet for you. A process that requires some time and effort. Dieting should never be something hard to do. The diet should feel as natural as breathing to you. By using the Metabolic Type Calculator after you use the Metab-O-Meter you will be able to find out exactly what foods help you speed up your metabolism.

The third step is getting plenty of exercise. To lose weight fast you have to exercise. There is no way around it. Start by walking more and being more physically active. Start practicing a sport you enjoy or you always wanted to try. To get the most out of working out, blend aerobic exercises with anaerobic exercises. That way you will increase your endurance and strengthen your muscles too. Plus the combination of strength training and cardio exercises make a killer fat burning combo. The fat will just start melting away.

If you want to get more detailed information on how to lose weight fast and other health tips, browse through the articles found on this website. When you see an article title that catches your eye, read it, then jump to the next one. If you can’t find something, even after using the search box, send me an email and I will answer your question as soon as I can.

Zap the fat and be healthy.

How to Benefit From Consumer Behavior During a Financial Crisis

Many business owners are probably somewhat afraid right now, seeing as the world's economy has taken a considerable swing for the worse. In the United States surveys have established that a very small amount of the population believe that there is reason to be hopeful righ now. For all businesses it is now very important to articulate strategies on how to deal with the current crisis. Studying customer behavior is an essential part of this and , interestingly enough, consumers may not act entirely as one would think.

Exactly what can be accomplished in your business in order to make it more recession proof, will of course vary somewhat depending on your particular business. For example, companies dealing mostly B2B may find themselves in a slightly different position right now than compared to the business to consumer players. Business to Business businesses may be better or much worse of, depending on how much their special industry is affected by the economic downswing. Selling to businesses might be better as there is more money exchanging hands in that market. But on the other hand, if your main business is supplying components to a larger company that is now going through great difficulties, you might be out of business very quickly.

Although some would well-nigh try and tell you that a recession mean consumers simply stop buying things and everything gets stuck, that is not exactly the whole truth. It is a fact however, that consumers will indeed behave differently during a recession - only possibly not always in a way that would seem wholly reasoned.

Studies have suggested that the following may take place during a downturn.

- People DO tighten the belt and ponder every purchase with extra care.

- People DO worry more and tread more cautiously, even if they are actually quite well off.

- People DO put off buying that new car and may think twice before dining out

You could probably have guessed all of the above, BUT people also

- Most often do not want it to show that they are struggling - this is important to their self image

- They will take certain measures for keeping up appearances

- They will seek out affordable pleasures that aspire to premium perceptions

- For the above reasons, commodities such as beer and various forms of entertainment can be top sellers during a downturn.

As you understand the examples above apply best to the middle class, as the rich will continue to consume more or less regardless of price and the poor to living on whatever they can afford. But phenomena such as these are still worth looking into in order to make your business survive the hard times ahead.

This article taken from Michael Hawkins

100 push up=)

If you're serious about increasing your strength, follow this six week training program and you'll soon be on your way to completing 100 consecutive push ups!

Think there's no way you could do this? I think you can! All you need is a good plan, plenty of discipline and about 30 minutes a week to achive this goal!

No doubt some of you can already do 50 consecutive push ups, but let's face it, you're in a big minority. Most of you reading this won't even be able to manage 20 pushups. Actually, I'm sure many of you can't even do 10.

However, it really doesn't matter which group you fall into. If you follow the progressive push ups training program, I'm positive you'll soon be able to do 100 push ups!

Asher Roth - Be By Myself ft. Cee-Lo

Intial Interventions

A detailed psycho-evaluations is the most important first step before any form of therapy is to begin. This is to ensure a thorough understanding of the patient's needs and skills.

Cognitive defusion will help the patient look at the problem objectively based on only the facts without being influenced by the affective component. It is a therapeutic technique to help a patient detect their thoughts and see them as a hypotheses rather than objective facts about the world.

Stress reduction strategies such as relaxation therapies like breathing exercise and muscle relaxation are important to be taught early in therapy in order to enable the patient to experience relief when under acute discomfort. By being able to regulate and deal with stressful situations one will also have a subject sense of control over particular difficult situation in their life. The patient is also encouraged to postpone all major life changed to avoid more stress and possible conflict.

to be continue....

Bahasa Kebangsaan

Sungguh kelakar melihat orang Malaysia yang masih tidak reti untuk berbahas dalam bahasa Malaysia, bahasa kebangsaan yang menyatukan orang Malaysia menjadi '1'. Saya baru lepas melihat rancangan apa ntah di tv3, Wardina, pengacara perempuan kegemaran saya dan adik dia juga merupakan sabahat saya semasa saya di sekolah rendah, interview seorang wanita ntah pasal apa ntah tetapi tidak reti langsung menggunakan bahasa kebangsaan malah dia hanya boleh bertutur bahasa English sampai ada seorang mamat tu tergelak bila wanita tue cam tergagap nak cakap bahasa malaysia last last cakap bahasa English. Kenapa masih wujud rakyat seperti ni? kata 1Malaysia? bangga ke guna bahasa orang jajahan semasa berkomunikasi antara satu sama lain?saya rasa lagi BANGGA bila berkomunikasi dalam bahasa Malaysia. ada gak orang kutuk kutuk aku menggunakan bahasa Malaysia. aku bangga sial!!! Dan aku sedih tengok ada setengah cam malu nak komunikasi dalam bahasa Melayu. Aish, aku bukan apa, aku pun reti nak speaking in fact dalam agama, menguasai ilmu adalah harus untuk mengembangkan agama Islam. Belajar bahasa lain tue bukan salah satu ilmu gak ke, jadi tak salah kita nak menguasai ilmu tetapi jangan nak banggakan ilmu, nak bezakan standard ngan pertuturan. Aku hanya bezakan orang tue ngan akhlak dia jer. walaupun kaya manapun tetapi agama rendah buat apa. aish. Jadi peringatan kepada semua orang, tolonglah hargai pengorbanan mereka yang ingin merdekakan kita daripada jajahan orang yang tak bertanggung jawab.

The Toilet Tank Trick

Everybody's saying the environment is going down the toilet. But simple fixes around the house can help prevent it. With one easy adjustment, you'll save money, water and the environment ... one flush at a time.

Step 1: Fill up a half-gallon container and seal it shut.

Step 2: Put the container in your toilet's water tank. You'll use less water in your tank and save water with every flush!

Step 3: Done. In one minute, you just saved 16% on your water bill and 7,500 gallons per year. Let your friends know; this tip will save us all money and help keep our environment from going down the tubes.

Indonesia

I love everything about Indonesia. their food, chicks and view=D ahahahah but most important is to enjoy the view of beautiful girls/women/ladies. =D These photos taken by me date 2009(last year).

Badan tough=berani?

Betul ke orang yang badan tegap, tough,besar, macam brock lesnar kuat,berani dan macho? okay Aku pun seorang yang category badan tough juga tetapi mengikut firasat aku badan tough/besar tak semestinya dia kering/berani. Aku pernah gaduh ngan ramai orang, bentuk fizikal besar hingga ke kecik, dr ramai hingga ke one on one. aku tahu mana yang berani dan mana yang tak. ada member aku badan kecik tetapi bantai orang kuat. ada yang besar tetapi jaga muka bajet sana sini macam ada cina kerja kat c.f selalu lepak kat Madina, Mutiara Damansara. ahahhahahaha aku suka cakap macam ni bukan aku tak puas hati ker apa but macam gila bajet sial!!! aish kalau nak tahu apa bezanya besar dan berani dan besar tetapi penakut tgk bebetul apa ada kat satu badan dia. takyah tgk muka, kekadang muka baik tuelah kita kena jaga-jaga. ntah apa ilmu dia ada.muka baragas macam brother kat karaoke semalam tue cakap lebat bila dia ramai tue yang dia berani. ahahahhahahaa poyo jer lebih. aish.

I'm a big fan of kimbo slice and jeff monson here's two picture to be an example:

Both are my idol. Tapi inilah jenis yang kita nampak memang truly fighter, bukan stock pussy jaga muka and all stuff. ala yang bajet bajet jer lebih. ahahhahahaha

biar musuh jadi kawan jangan kawan jadi musuh

Itulah pepatah A.J kepada kami last kitaorang jumpa dia. cam kekadang betul selalunya musuh tue asalnya kawan kita, orang yang kita kenal dan pernah percaya sepernuh but tetiba menjadi musuh atas sebab sebab yang tak dapat dikenal pasti. mungkin ada mulut yang buat cerita atau ketidakpuas hati dia terhadap sesuatu benda yang dia tidak berani nak luahkan tetapi hanya berani pedam. Jadinya member makan memberlah. Tapi dimana silapnya? dimana punca kejadian ini? adakan punca drpd diri sendiri? Siapa yang patut kita tunding jari? dan susah nak tgk musuh kita jadi sahabat kita. sangat susah. aku ada ramai musuh terus terang dan masing masing akan citer belakang dan mereka selalu memburukkan aku walhal mereka sendiri sama sahaja mungkin lagi teruk drpd aku dan aku tak pernah ambik kisah apa mereka cerita tentang aku kerna sesungguhnya aku ni memang ada baik dan jahat ibarat yin yang. dan aku sendiri tak salahkan mereka kerna aku mengaku aku ada buat silap juga tetapi tidakkah mereka sedar bahwa mereka tu lagi bodoh drpd aku kerna di kaca mata orang lain, mereka buat diri mereka nampak seperti orang takde mak bapak? seperti orang yang inginkan kasih sayang drpd seseorang. kalau dah musuh tetapi musuh hang datang berjabat tangan ngan hang tidakkah itu tanda aku malas nak gaduh ngan hang pasal; hang hanya membuang masa aku sahaja. atau maybe aku tahu siapa family hang jadi aku taknak tambah beban kepada hang. fikirlah pasal sesungguhnya kau tue tak sehebat mana yang orang cakap. kalau kena tikam,tembak maybe kena bantai pun darah kau keluar juga. kau akan menangis juga. pasal kau tetap seorang lelaki yang aku kenal sebagai lembut dan hamba Allah juga. kau mungkin lupakan-Nya,Maha Pencipta tetapi Dia tidak pernah lupakan kau pasal akan datang masanya nyawa kau akan Dia tarik. mungkin bukan ditangan aku, mungkin ditangan orang lain. dan ingat, mungkin orang macam aku juga akan datang dan angkat kau dan doakan agar jenazah kau diterima tanah, roh kau ditempatkan bersama ngan orang beriman, agar dosa dosa kau diampun. jadi fikirlah sebelum benda jadi teruk. Assalamualaikum.

Aku Paling suka bila

1. Sound orang tak kenal tanpa sebab and suruh diaorang cakap bahasa kebangsaan 
2. Ketawa padahal tidak kelakar
3. membebel padahal tidak faham
4. goyat kelate padahal tak reti dan bukan orang kelantan
5. Straight foward especially bila perempuan tue ada asset yang buat aku tergoda( maaf aku bukan pervert dan aku juga bukan seorang perogol)
6. korek hidung ngan kuku panjang
7. pastu calit kat baju kat zara
8. siapa beli baju zara and jadi mangsa aku terus terang aku mintak maaf atas kebodohan aku
9. letak taik hidung dalam minuman orang aku tak suka( so far hanya 2 mangkuk je dah kena iaitu hutang and hiroshima)
10. Naik kereta Aiman, Ilyas, Johnny and Tot
11. tgk nelza cakap banyak ahahhaha kelakar and comel
12. cuaca sejuk and minum mint tea and tgk orang buat lawak
13. orang yang suka bajet besar hebat dah tak wujud langsung dalam hidup aku and harap-harap hang mati dalam Islam. ameen

Beware of PERVERT/Face-raped

Guy in the picture is gay and also a pervert also known as face-rape in every facebook profile so be aware with him. owh he also think that he's the only smart guy in town. Guess Double A's, you aint get the pancake mixed asshole and i'm the chaos and you don't know who you dealing with. so this is my last warn, wannabe.

P/S: you tarak puas hati sama saya, okay fine you boleh datang cari gua or gua cari lu apa macam? ada beran? gua bukan troll dalam internet dalam internet jer gua berani tak lua boleh hadaplah kalau nak rasa apa gua ada. jangan ingat gua tak berani guni lu campak kat bukit gasing kasi anjing makan pasal lu akan jadi sangat hina. ahahahahhahaha . saja nak cari pasal ngan lu. nak call polis cakap gua ugut lu? bring it on~gua tak kaya untuk pakai lawyer. SALAM!!!

Who will benifit from CBT?

CBT can be of benefit to patients with most psychiatric disorders. This form of therapy is most commonly used in depression, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, substance abuse, personality disorders and under special supervision, for psychosis. The individual qualities of a client that would be beneficial when doing CBT include:

1. A good understanding of the basis principles of CBT
2. The ability to identify emotional responses to given situations
3. the capacity to identify automatic thoughts
4. the ability to critically analyze the evidence supporting the automatic thoughts
5. the sense of responsibility for one's own outcome 
6. the ability to stay focused on the agreed upon targets
7. the willingness to participate actively in the home-work

Karaoke session

Well I just got back from karaoke with my friends, Nelza and Aiman( the one who brought us to the place) at Selayang(well to be honest I can't remember the place) and it going well and I didnt think that Nelza can sing that well. Seriously she was different than the real nelza that i know.ahahahah Well as soon as we arrived, there was lot of people waiting in the line. And I have to say this I'm a bit embarrassed with my own race I mean you guys are adult, please act like one. Don't be such a prick and asshole because no ones not even me would like your attitude. I know you try to act like a cool guy, you know like a bad boys but the truth is you're not. Seriously, Why would I want to do that in front of people with family? You try to be meant to everyone but no one ever cares about what you did and youre just make yourselves as a jokes only. I laugh that hard seeing you and your friends act like a gangster. The real badass is someone with lot of cash, with gun in hand and just ready to kill people like you. You shouldn't be exist. You must be a pathetic guy with no future, I mean it!!! Please, change yourselves to be real mature guy and respect others. Wtv it is tonight is my night and thanks again to aiman for your treat. ahahaha Best gila kut karaoke ahahahahahha=D

P/S: Din vs Jinjang vs Macha~ equals to...NOTHING!!!

Polis Buli rempit my preview

Well what's in your mind now? probably "FUCK POLICE MALAYSIA SHOULDN'T DO THAT", or maybe "RACIST!!!!" or some of who would think like this " Served YOUR RIGHT, ASSHOLE". ahahaha but from y opinion, the policemen didn't do anything wrong at all. They're just teach the lesson to the rempit( street gangster riding motorcycle) to respect the law, our country has law. Event triads and 3line knows the law. so what can you respect the law? owh I wanted to show you guys this chinese lady think she thinks shes smart but she's not. ahahahha



this is the video. I was like WTF you live in my country and you dont even know how to talk Bahasa Malaysia properly? and sekarang nak bajet macam anda pandai semua plak? aish. Stop acting like youre smart eventhough youre not. and please gunakanlah bahasa kebangsaan kita arilah amalkan ramai-ramai. bahasalah menyatukan kita semua~

Mat Rempit Kena Buli Dgn polis

CBT part 2

Here's the main features of CBT :

• Emphasis on the present
• Collaborative empirism
• Specific goals
• outcome evaluation

"Think about your parents,your mom especially, she spent like more than hundred bucks to pay hospital bill just to make sure you okay"- my former psychiatrist.

Yes I've been to clinical depression before this after trying to committed suicide after failure with  my relationship with this girl. And No I'm not pussy thank you. well back to our main conversation here, although CBT is highly structured form of therapy, the structure of the sessions can be modified depending on time constraints, the patients' needs and the patient-therapist contact.

You know, you can do basis structure in CBT. here's the behavioral methods.

1. Relaxation - Imagery,breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation.
2. Distraction - Object focusing.
3. Same as above - Sensory awareness
4. Monitoring activities
5. Schedule activities
6. Graded tasks

By doing all this, insyaAllah you will find the way to stop you from thinking. and if you're a muslim, you can always pray to Allah and ask for forgiveness. May Allah be with you.

Cognitive Methods :

1. Explaining the mechanism and symptoms of the relevant disorder
2. Identifying and challenging negative thoughts 
3. Cognitive restructuring

the rest to be continue.....

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

I am freaking stress about my JOB!!!

What is CBT? Well it's very simple, CBT stand for cognitive behavioral therapy is a type of psychotherapy that helps a person change behavior, thinking and emotions by understanding and reorganizing their relationship. The basis behind CBT is that cognition and emotions can be monitored and altered and desired behavioral changed can be achieved through these changes.Thoughts help us define the mood we experience and also influence the way we behave. Thoughts and beliefs also affect our physical reaction. Our environment and subjective experiences influence attitude, beliefs and thoughts. By understanding these connections one will be able to modify the emotional responses to our thoughts and environment. Lets proceed to the next shall we? well you have to wait for the next post.To be continue

Alhamdulillah

Alhamdulillah , this morning is very beautiful, lovely and windy,just nice for me to do some exercise to make sure I'm healthy to do everything, including 5 times a day=) InsyaAllah. i am grateful and I am now better than yesterday and much better for tomorrow. I haven't slept since yesterday and I'm hungry right now. No more sugar for me please. I had lot of sugar last night. I can't even think properly and my neck is killing me. Somehow I did had fun last night I'm glad that our crisis between me and Tot is over and hopefully there's nothing can make us do apart again. and hopefully no more Mr Pengebom Mati(( bullshit-er )in our journey to make our lives better. PLEASE!!!! I don't want to mention about my relationship/personal life in here since it's kinda personal plus I haven't met the right person yet. And I'm not ready to give any commitment to anyone, I'm just wanna have fun with life without burden from girls/ladies/women. I have my own plan for my own life. To stabilize my financial and economy and to growth my empire in business. then Politics. Hahahaha so sesiapa yang terasa tak guna, tolong jangan terasa pasal anda masih berguna=) mari kita sama sama bukak empire=D Ameen

He's right,let's do NOW!!!

Prpoganda everywhere

Assalamualaikum and good day everybody, today I'm gonna tell the world about stupidity and ask them to stop being nice to attract people to vote you in election, especially Malaysia. Stop being hypocrite!!! please I'm tired living with this kind of people. Cakap orang sogok sana sini but sendiri pun sama. Kalau nak bagi sesuatu benda biarlah ikhlas dan takyahlah nak kasi kalau boleh kat plastic bag tue ada lambang parti hang pa. aku tak cakap kat satu pihak aku tuju kepada semua pihak pasal aku adalah orang politik yang ingin menegakkan bangsa dan tanah air aku sendiri. aku tak kisah apa bangsa hangpa semua aku jaga tapi hangpa semua kena jujur dan amanah untuk melakukan sesuatu pekerjaan kerana Tuhan sendiri ada habaq pasal hal ni. Aku malu pasal bangsa aku sendiri buat perangai padahal tak sedar apa yang sedang berlaku kat Pulau Pinang. Aish. Please, grow up people!!! Don't you realize that this is the end of the world? Have you guys prepared everything that we should prepare since we were born in this world? Have you forgotten our 'deal' with The Only One? This is just temporary. Our lives,we borrowed from God, don't you remember it? at least please remember GOD, ALLAH!!! I'm tired and sick of everything. I'm tired to argue about this over and over again. Ya Allah, SEDARLAH WAHAI UMAT ADAM dan MUHAMMAD!!! HANGPA SAMPAI BILA NAK BIAR KITA DIJAJAH LAGI SEKALI? TAKKAN NAK BIAR KITA SAKIT SEPERTI DULU? HANGPA SEMUA NI CEPAT LUPA!!!! TAHU KENAPA? KITA DAH DIBERI BANYAK KEBEBASAN DAN HAK HAK MILIK KITA TAPI KITA TETAP SALAH GUNAKAN KEBEBASAN SEMUA TUE!!! KITA NI IBARAT CITER ARNAB DAN KURA-KURA!!!! Bumiputera ibarat arnab and non bumiputera ibarat kura-kura. tahu kenapa? KITA LALAI!!!!  KITA LALAI NGAN APA YANG KITA ADA!!! Bukak mata semua, please tolonglah aku mohon and aku tak segan silu untuk melutut kat hangpa and suruh bukak mata.biar maruah aku hilang janji maruah generasi kita terutama anak gadis kita tidak terabai. Ya Allah, please lah!!!! Aku sanggup miskin daripada makan duit haram hasil dari Kilang Arak semua. PLEASE!!!! Biar MISKIN janji rezeki HALAL, Allah akan sentiasa bantu umat-Nya yang sentiasa ikut jalan-Nya. Jangan KAYA tetapi rezeki HARAM. Astaghfirullah... Aku tak sanggup. Hentikan segalanya please!!!! Aku mohon pada semua bukak mata,letak ego tue kat tempat lain,jangan biarkan minda kita dikuasai oleh suara sumbang, tepuk dada tanya diri apa kita buat ni betul atau tidak? tanya orang sebelah pendapat dan terima ngan seadanya jangan nak gaduh dan bermusuhan ngan semua orang. Fikir, banyakkan membaca dan fahami Isi kandungan Al-Quran.

Pengebom MATI!!!

Saja nak tulis pasal cerita yang agak lapuk tetapi cam kelakar bila diceritakan pasal kita dah tahu perangai depa but saja ungkit untuk jadi bahan ketawa. Al kisah 3 mangkuk yang digelar hiroshima,hotdowh dah hutang. Masing masing benci masing masing tetapi masing masing tak sedar persamaan antara mereka bertiga. kisahnya hiroshima ni nak kata orang berada memang berada. Anak pilot, mak former stewardess, tetapi anak perangai macam lan(CAU!!!). Manakala Hotdowh ni plak tak tahulah hanya Allah sahaja dia kaya atau tidak, kenalan nak kata lama pun tidak baru pun tidak tetapi pandai bercakap. Yang terakhir hutang ni terus terang dr apa kita nampak family seperated, tidak suka cari kerja but nak duit sahaja, pandai bercakap juga. walaupun mereka ni nama start ngan abjad 'H' tetapi diaorang bukan adik-beradik. diaorang hanyalah mangkuk yang mempunyai persamaan iaitu seek for attention/attention seeker/bullshit-ed/bajet player. kisah pertama start ngan si hotdowh dulu kerana dialah orang yang ingat leader dalam group. dia ni tak tahulah suka cakap banyak orang suka dia,gangster, kaya dan lalalala. tetapikan yang sebenarnya dia ni suka perasan seorang diri. muka macam 'din'. pastue nak gebang sana sini. terus terang kau tak perlu jadi kaya untuk cari kawan kau tak perlu jadi perfect di setiap mata manusia pasal setiap orang ada kelemahan dan kelebihan cuma jangan tutup kelemahan anda. and trademark dia "aku baik kut(sambil buat jari peace ala cam aku baik tetapi sebenarnya aku nakal)" camtuelah. Pastue dia akan ulang yang dia sudah reject banyak gadis and banyak gadis kecundang ngan dia pasal tak dapat dia. kelakar? memang kelakar gila siot!!! ahahahaha pastue bajet gangster sana sini. aish abe, cheq pun skema jer kat sekolah buke gangster sekole dulu. ambo hanya suko sakat manusia jo. jadi mangkuk ni pun melarikan diri dgn hati sedih tak dapat merasa jadi hebat pasal sememangnya kami semua tak hebat pun. kami semua pun kentut tercirit. jadi after si mangkuk bernama hotdowh chalo bette, naiklah seorang mangkuk baru jenama onex pula nak tunjuk hebat, thismangkukcalled Hiroshima. Dia bukan seorang jepun,italy,Us,arab mahupun India tetapi dia hanyalah insan biasa yang suka ingat dia ni darah campuran(memang dia campuran cuma ntah aish). Dia ni lagi best, dia suka bercerita tentang dia pandai kat sana sini, gangster sekolah, gaduh ngan ramai gangstarzzzz, ada scandal sana sini, suka kecoh and the best part pasal dia (bukan nak bangga), walaupun dia besar but aku dah sparing ngan dia. kalau ada gambar muka eden pucoh eden letak maklumlah eden muka mat lembut jer. ahahahah but dalam diam ambo ni hati pahlawe dalam dotA. ambo dok pehe dotA jadi tak main. dia ni ala ala fighter dusun kampung kentut. pastue dia ni kedekut karo gaklah(mungkin karo dia tak secantik mak dia jadi dia malu/segan/takut-takut nak kenalkan karo tue kat kami takut kami tercirit tgk muka minah tue macam baragas. ahahahah muka ala ala fighter kan. dia ni still berdendam ngan aku lagi sendiri pehelah apo berlaku. hahahah walaupun dah lama tak berspeaking but ada this one time pun dia berani cari pasal gak.ahahahaha. lucky ambo ngan dak dak ambo. aish if not you know what anei always says" we serve you better i said NO PORK NO PORKLAH!!!". But he's the pig, the rarest pig ever. you only see once in your calander. yes so hilang gaklah mangkuk dia dr tandas anei s.k. jadi mangkuk ni paling best,dia batu api sana sini gaklah,suka putar belit sana sini, suka buat fitnah sana sini, suka bajet gangster, suka bangga diri sana sini, suka bajet kaya banyak connection datuk sana sini, gila talak,gila gila,bajet gempak, kuat makan darah daging saudara saudari sendiri, dayus, dialah bernama Hutang!!!!! jeng jeng jeng.... Hutang ni dilahirkan di hospital. lahir lahir sudah pandai bercerita. kalah Hotdowh dan hiroshima. And suka labelled diri sendiri sebagai paling hebat sekali drpd sesiapa yang ada. ahahahha and dia ni suka punca orang bergaduh sesama sendiri. wujudnya mangkuk ni dalam hidup bukan bagi apa-apa kemajuan pun. bagi orang hilang kawan, awek, dan duit adalah. pasal hidup dia hanya bergantung kepada perempuan,perempuan bagi dia duit bagi dia anak bagi dia dosa but dia tak buat apa-apa tak tahulah dah kerja ke tak. and the best part is cita cita dia tinggi sangat, sampai nak beli benda yang tak masuk akal. bukan apa, kalau dia ada pekerjaan tak apa gak but ini tak buat apa-apa, nak cakap besar. dahlah hutang bertimbun. makin peninglah dia nak cari jalan nak bayar. aish. itu kalau tak bayar aish tergantung roh. terseksa babe. aish. and perangai tak pernah nak insaf. Aku ajak ke arah ke makrufan dia lagi kemungkaran. aku ajar bantai orang dia nak buat perzinaan. lagi elok kau pukul orang drpd berzina. hutang ooo hutang. ingat dowh keadaan family hang tue bukan stabil sangat jangan nak bercita cita tinggi, dahlah curang itu indah, curang ngan orang tak boleh blah aish. kesian  awek hang. exes hang pun aku cakap kesian. duit habis macam tue jer. si jantan plak dapat puaskan nafsu sendiri. ahahahahah dahlah hang punca aku putus saudara ngan member baik aku merangkap saudara si ex yang kononnya nak kau balik, sayang kau inilah itulah bullshit babi!!! astaghfirullah. Aku tak kisah orang nak kutuk apa kat belakang aku ke apa-apa but ingat siapa aku dan siapa kau. kau ngan aku lain. kau start ngan 'k' aku start ngan 'a' kalau aku bagi kau 'a' kau rasa kau boleh jadi sedap ke? kalau kau bagi aku 'k' aku jadi sedap pasla k bro.ahahahahha ingat satu benda Allah sentiasa menunggu kita semua kita lalai ngan duniawi. aku once lalai gak kawan but Alhamdulillah slowly nak kebaikan. lanun sekali sekala jer bro. Pastue hang nak cakap aku open citer sana sini 'pegang' kawan hang kalau aku hantar budak gi locked hang, hang marah tak? mesti marah betul tak? ahahhahaha jadi fikirlah sendiri. hang bukan makin bagus but makin mundur. serious. elok elok ada rumah ada mak nak gak duduk rumah awek, tipu mak kata ada duit beribu ribu but makl kau sendiri kantoikan kau depan aku. kau ingat, ayat aku tetap sama, kau sekarang dah tak ada sesiapa yang boleh bantu kau.and kau ni pentingkan diri sendiri.Ingat, kau senang sekejap susah lama.Kalau mak kau nampak keadaan kau yang sebenar,aish tak tahu nak bahaq apa. jangan!!!jangan!!! ahahahahahaha siapa makan cili dia yang terasa. jadi yang lain siapa yang faham-faham diam yang tak faham pun boleh bertanya. Assalamualaikum.

fixed gear bicycle trend

My friend, Tot or his real name Amin just bought a new bike but not ordinary bike but 'fixie bike'. Well to be honest I'm like a bit culture shock I never heard of it before even though I used to ride a bmx before but this one it's a bit different because this bike only have one gear and no brake. Yes, no brake to avoid you from injury. You can google it to know more about fixie bike because i can not explain everything plus I just know about it. Back to the story, this so called fixie bike is kinda interesting and I never knew this bike can do trick too. I'm quite surprise that this bike can also do jokes by chasing the wild dogs. ahahahahha You don't get it the jokes huh? nevermind.  wtv it is, I'm so not gonna fall for it. Beside, Bmx is more fun and challenging and it could even kill your sperm and no more father's day for you.However, every sports must have a risk.so please remember to wear you safety gear to protect yourselves. Have fun youth=D

Man drinks IPECAC

Resident Evil: Afterlife

Ya saya tahu agak ketinggalan but this is my thought about RS:afterlife, more action,more weapons and most important is more zombies.Yet still never disappointed me at all. I love Ali Larter and our heroin, Milla Jovovich and plus our new hero is here from 'Prison Break' to 'Chris Redfield',Wentworth Miller. It is worth waiting eventhough it takes a days to download this movie. I am a die hard fan of horror plus action movie like Resident Evil and I've been following since the first Resident Evil and I can't wait for the next movie. But I'm curious, there is one part where this bloody huge zombie carriying huge enormous axe, what the hell is that? The Executioner? I'm sorry I never play their games before but I was like WTH is that mate? What ever it is, I'm satisfied with it and I want MORE!!! Darn I need a cup of hot chocolate with marshmallows. Back to our beautiful actresses, Ali and Milla, they both are my favorite. But it would be perfect if Jill Valentine were there too. She's damn hot. Please producer, if you read this please re-considerate my request for the next Resident Evil, put Jill Valentine back in action. Please!!!

P/S: I too wanna be a super hero just like Iron Man. Except i ironed clothes only.do you get it? it's a joke. nevermind...

Conversation between Mother and Son

mama: kita nanti pindah jauh kat sepang but ala fahim dah afford to buy your own car takde hallah nak ulang alik Me: but i prefer KJ coz ada public transport it'll be easier for me to ulang alik and merayau Mama: awww i know youre gonna miss your friend here Me: no kat sini takde siapa suka fahim plus cakap buruk pasal fahim but yeah, Im gonna miss them because diaorang my only friend yang always support fahim masa fahim down dulu mama: ala kat sana fahim buat kawan okay **mama senyum** Me: **senyum** okay takpe janji mama happy fahim tak kisah. Now fahim kena berusaha untuk fulfill my dream and bawa mama and abah buat umrah . My treat.

That is short conversation between me and my mom. She plan to moved to Sepang after my sis, Fatin, finish her SPM. Yeah I know it's kinda sad for me to leave this place but as long my mom happy, I'm happy too. We all do need new friends to share your stories(good stories), to make a new connection and bla bla bla. But for me, I'm not that type of guy who easily click with other people to be honest I am not. So hopefully they will accept me for who I am. I don't have good personality eventhough I worked for Public Mutual and my job is to click with client to persuade them to invest under my company to help them increase their salary or plan for their retirement but still I am the guy who always hard to make a friend. My jokes can make people love and hate me. so I aware that people will critics me and labeled as a bad person and give their first bad impression about me. hm... WtH. I need to improve my english to be perfect back. I just need something to make me feel ok and normal. I want my chocolate. nyumnyum ehehehe and I desperately need a girlfriend to be my soulmate. ahaaahahaha